Helping you find your authentic self in sex
Navigating sex, intimacy and physical touch can present unique challenges for LGBT+ folk, neurodivergent people, non-monogamous folk and kink practioners. For those who have multiple marginalised identities, this can mean navigating intersecting societal, systemic and cultural pressures of how to be. I can support you in helping you to find your authentic self in sex by centering pleasure, autonomy and the kinds of touch and intimacy you want, both solo and partnered. I can also help support you in managing the trickier aspects of sex and sexuality, and create the relationship you want with sex in the present.
We might also think about your patterns in sex, the stories that you're holding about sexuality and how these are impacting you and any relationships you might have in the present. Whether you're struggling with desire, attraction, a kink or fetish, your relationship with your body, or something else, therapy can help.
Helping you to grow in your relationship
Relationship therapy has historically been a challenging space for LGBT+ folk and non-monogamous people. We have often found our relationship styles and structures dismissed, minimised, or pathologised. Neurodivergent folk and kink practioners face similar challenges; we can often feel pressured to conform to a way of being, relating or playing with each other that doesn't work for us.
I think that our relationships can grow and flourish when every partner can bring their full self to a space, the way that they do relationships is respected and understood, and every partner, regardless of how they do relationships or how they exist in the world, is listened to. I can help support you in creating relationships of your design, and find ways of relating that work for each person in the relationship.
I specialise in non-monogamy, gender, sexual diversity and kink
I work with a range of relationship orientations including non-monogamous, open relationships, relationship anarchy, swinging, polyamory, polyfidelity, open and closed triads, and BDSM non-monogamy. I also work with mixed relationship orientation relationships.
Whether you are thinking about opening up your relationship, reflecting on your own relationship orientation or struggling with the unique challenges that non-monogamy can present, I can help. My practice is an affirming space regardless of your relationship style, structure, or orientation; including more monogamous folk.
Non-monogamy
Gender and Sexual Diversity
I work with people of various genders, including transgender, non-binary, gender fluid, expansive and non-conforming people. I can help you understand and manage dysphoria, navigate your transition and support you through your journey.
I also work with people of various sexualities, romantic and sexual orientations, including bisexual, lesbian, polysexual, gay, queer, pansexual, and those on the asexual and aromantic spectrum. Together we can reflect on your relationship to attraction, desire and arousal, and help you to understand and express yourself in a more authentic way.
Kink, Fetish and BDSM
I am a kink affirming therapist. I often work with clients who are struggling to accept part of their sexual (or non-sexual) identity, and are experiencing shame around a kink or fetish, as well as clients who are attempting to explore or negotiate a kink or fetish with a partner.
If you're struggling to understand what it is you want or need, or you're finding it difficult to talk about kink and fetish with a partner, I can help. I can support you in reflecting on your kinks and fetishes, understanding any shame, and identifying the relationship you'd like to have with a kink or fetish moving forward.
